I totally understand you play in a different way to me.
There is no "correct" way to play TSO, I suppose that's why its difficult to please everyone and keep them interested.
It would be a shame if you felt you had to stop playing because of this. Many veterans have gone through phases where they were frustrated or losing interest with one part of this game but sometimes you have to look at the game as a whole and ignore that one part or hope/wait til it's improved.
I wish you the best of luck on your pumpkin drops!